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The Personal Ramblings of Samm Diep

live ~ laugh ~ love

So much can happen in 21 days. Just think. The last time I blogged here, I was enjoying the autumn bike rides in Colorado as an independent free-spirited single girl. And now look at me, a married woman. Yep, that’s right. And all it took was 21 days. It’s pretty unbelievable, even to me some days.

What can you do in 21 days?

They say it takes 21 days to form or break a new habit.

21 Days Together is the name of a 1940 British drama film based on the short play The First and the Last by John Galsworthy.

21 Days is also an obscure song by Dave Gahan.

These days, you can teach yourself some basic programming languages in 21 days.

With 21 days, you can also lose 21 pounds on Martha Stewart’s Vineyard Diet Detox.

Or……. I suppose you could discover your true love and elope on your 21st day together.

Our "honeymoon" at Chimney Rock in NC

If you told me a year ago I’d be this happy right now, married to my perfect partner and talking babies, I never would have believed it. Life is funny sometimes.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve always heard people say, “When you know, you know.” Really??? You do? Is that true? Well, I do know there have been times I thought I knew or been with people that I probably couldn’t ‘settled’ for. The only thing I really knew for certain is that I’ve always been happy being who I am, even if it meant being alone. After my most recent failed relationship, I didn’t think I was EVER going to meet ‘the one’ for me. I had resolved to dying an old lonely spinster. After all these years and all my relationship experience, I’d decided I would rather be happily single than unhappily taken.

That is, until….

Falling with my eyes closed...

While covering the U.S. Open 9-Ball Championships in Chesapeake, Virginia this past October, I found my husband, Marc Vidal Claramunt. I say “found” because we’ve actually been friends for the past couple years. We first met in July 2008 at Bankshot Billiards in Jacksonville, Florida when his classic first words to me were, “I like your sexy tie video.” “What a creep,” I thought at the time. It might’ve just been the way he said it. We both knew who the other was but had never formally met.

I most certainly do!

A few months after those infamous first words, I ended up interviewing him during the 2009 Derby City Classic where, after discovering certain personal toiletries in his pool case, I pegged him not for a creep, but just a total player. Not only that, but it was his birthday and he was in good spirits. We’ll just say that wasn’t the best impression either.

Our friendship developed over the next couple years and was never anything more than that as I was seeing someone during that time.

December 1, 2010

Fast forward to the 2010 U.S. Open, where I was finally single and all the magic began, where after only five blissful days together we were absolutely crazy for one another. After the tournament, we took the show on the road. Impulsively, I invited him to stay with me in Charlotte. On a whim, he said yes. So, off to Virginia Beach, Durham, Charlotte, and Asheville we went. On day ten together, while at our Charlotte oasis, we made the biggest decision of our lives. With complete certainty, knowing that neither of us would ever meet someone that we could possibly love more, we decided to make the biggest commitment of our lives and get married.

We did it!

There could be no more serious statement to express how much we truly care about each other. I knew at that moment that I never wanted to waste another kiss on any other man.

Never before in a relationship have I ever felt so completely and unconditionally loved and accepted for exactly who I am. I’ve always been comfortable in my own skin but to know that I now have someone that allows me to fully express myself is something that I never thought I would ever find. I feel complete freedom to say whatever I’m thinking and I can be as silly and corny as I want. My husband is the only man I’ve ever known that has never made me feel insecure or self-conscious for being me, and that’s the only way I want to be. That reason, among so many others, is how I know without a doubt that he was the true love of my life.

Cheers!

It takes a huge leap of faith to go on the road for ten days with a new love interest that you don’t really know that well, introducing him to your friends and family and not knowing what would become of it. It’s an even bigger leap of faith to decide to spend your life with someone having only really spent ten days with him, ten full days of no radio, no television, no separation, and hours and hours each night of just staring into each other’s eyes and learning everything there is to know about one another (even though we felt like we’d known each other all our lives).

Every day is an adventure

I never knew that being married could be so unbelievably rewarding and complete my life like it has. “How’s married life treating you?” is the most common question I’m asked these days. Truthfully, there really isn’t anything glamorous about being married, but having Marc as my husband makes me wonder how I ever lived for so many years without him. I never know where we’ll be when he might grab me and start dancing with me or singing to me. Every day together is a new adventure.

Live ~ Laugh ~ Love

It’s funny, we both constantly have moments where we look at each other and think, “I want to marry you… Oh, wait….” Yeah, it happens to me almost every day. I look at Marc and think, “I would love to spend the rest of my life with this man.” It’s silly, I know. We’re in love like teenagers, like only in the movies, like happily ever after…

We’re so fortunate to have found each other and to have what we have. True love is an amazing experience and I wish everyone could experience the joy that we feel at some point in life. I’m so happy neither of us ever settled.

I can’t recall any point in my life where I’ve been happier than I am now. Sometimes in life, you just have to go with your gut.

Happily ever after...

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